FADING AWAY
“Old
soldiers never die…they just fade away”, is an adage. That is, as a Soldier, if
you live long enough to be old. Amen.
I am
a soldier and am old now.
As
a child, growing up to be a boy in Kerala, I used to stand alone at the gate
near the vast paddy fields at dusk and watch the setting Sun painting the sky
in crimson and red and in its various hues, the many flock of birds flying home
in amazing formations and the day giving in to the oncoming night. Very much
like the “Handing over Taking over” ceremony as used to happen in the Army. There
was a child’s exhilaration and wonderment. That memory lingers but the scene
has faded.
Schooling
in Madras had many friends, mostly sports groups. As it would have it, I can
hardly remember their names except for a couple or so. There was one weirdo Hariharan
who used to read Dictionary like a story book! As we were leaving school, we
all had fully filled autograph books, in which we wrote creatively. Now I can’t
locate where those precious small little books are. Somehow, never thought of
keeping in touch with them as adults and hence no whereabouts of any one is
known now, however close some were. They all have faded away!
Ditto
about College. All those class mates, NCC and Sports friends, friends for no
particular reason, et al. Autographs were got filled again in all earnestness
at the end of the final year, but with no details for a future possible
meeting. Who knows, many may be in high positions in various fields and could
be influencers now. There was one Subba Rao, a fellow built like a bull and a
solid Volleyball player. I heard that he joined Madras Traffic Police as an
Inspector. I used to look out for him on the streets of Madras, but never
spotted him. I faded away from them all.
Join
Army. Every Unit, every Location, friends and friends. On getting posted out,
kept up with many with inland letters, birthday/anniversary cards, with
personalized hand written notes and what not. As years passed and many a
posting came my way, this activity faded and those good friends all faded away.
Then
came retirement. Since I was still not old, as in OLD, I join some Corporate.
With all the smartness and youthful and fit-look and decent, gentlemanly
demeanour, I am admired. Then at some point in time I leave that wonderful
organisation, for whatever reason. And that process repeats for a few more
years. Then came a time, when the thought “enough is enough” crept in. Maybe I
was tired of it all or the spark and commitment had faded. I faded from all those
colleagues and friends. They seemed no longer relevant.
Once
relatives were aplenty. As my age kept increasing, many admirable elders, whom
I looked up to as a child, kept ascending the steps to their heavenly abodes. Those
who were left did not seem important to my existence. Neither they seemed to
care about me. By and by the aloofness increased. Fading continued.
Worse
is, perhaps when children start flying the coop. How long can they tolerate the
parents’ eagle eyes? On having to step out of the confines of the home, they
sing like a lark and soar high. Then they find a mate and equations start
changing. They make their own nests and become parents themselves. Most often
they are on faraway lands, even across the oceans. After the initial euphoric
visits and calls, slowly they slow down and get immersed in their own world,
which gets larger by the day. The fading that had started, progresses.
In
old age, not to allow the old man in (to borrow the wonderful saying by Clint
Eastwood), I start some new activities. Some, a rehash of the old, some,
offshoots, some, afresh and anew. At the same time some old tricks are
discarded. But then, I get bored and tired of the new ones too. Lack of stamina
to hang on, maybe. Tried joining some story telling groups but found them all sub-par. Those sodas did not have the fizz. Thus, I slowly faded away from all those activities too. Like from
writing blogs.
I
felt much obliged to the good Doctors who treated our family, carried surgical
operations on us, delivered our children and grandchildren. But they went about
their progress in life and my loyalty to them could not flourish. They all
faded away. But on occasions, I remember them and thank them in my heart.
The
formal dresses and dozens of neck-ties gathered along my Army and Corporate
journey are all lying unused now. I dread to wear a formal shoe or insert my
shirts these days. It is quite funny that they have not faded. I feel sorry seeing
them stacked in the wardrobe, begging to be used.
The
good old back-slapping, laughing friends have vanished. Many lady-loves of yore
are lost forever. Body frowns on movements. The feet that preferred to run than
walk in boyhood, now totters. Eyes can’t take the strain of any reading effort.
Moreover, an effort in that direction, invites sleep, pronto. All those boyhood
efforts put in to get a good hand writing has gone to naught now. The hand
seems to have developed a contrary mind.
Not
too long ago I was an unpaid advisor on cars to potential buyers. I had kept
track of the many that mushroomed every other day. Now I care two hoots, as
cars are dime a dozen. Frankly, I do not have the energy to keep up with the
feverish pace of their introduction into the market. Now if anyone asks for
advice, I simply say that I have no clue and back off.
The
disease of fading is debilitating, for both mind and body. But somewhere, in
some corner, a vague pride stands firm and erect. That does not seem to fade
but is diminishing in stature and posture.
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Death and taxes were the two things that were certain in life. Now add fading away to that :-)
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ReplyDeleteMany pointed out the spelling error in the original title, which now is corrected. It only proves my point about fading, is what I would say! Terrible!
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